Cognitive Behavior Therapy

Born Imperfect, Complex, & Unique

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I think we would all agree that each and every one of us is born imperfect. There are so many complex and unique aspects to the human body which generations of genes have contributed. The things that make up our physical and mental attributes. One example is our face. It is estimated that only 2% of the world’s population has a truly symmetrical face. The right side usually appears larger than the left and eyes, nose and ears are not perfectly aligned. When you see a photo of a face with both sides exactly the same, its actually creepy. They lack character and look like AI.

Some of us are born with deficiencies that make life difficult and challenging, like being born blind, or deaf, or with a physical deformity. Because of amazing advances in science and medicine in the last century, many of these problems can be corrected. I had crowded teeth when I was young and am so thankful I was able to get braces and have a normal smile. We would not understand if someone had the opportunity to receive this kind of help and didn’t access it because they or others in their community thought they should just live as they are. We all want to feel comfortable and that we belong, are ‘normal’ in this world.

What about when someone is born with an internal deficiency such as a heart condition or kidney problem or blood disorder? We never think twice about having medical help or drugs and lifestyle changes to remediate the problem if it is possible. So why is there any discussion on whether someone who is born with an imbalance of normal brain chemicals or hormones should live in constant struggle and not access medication?

This thought came up as I considered the reasons behind why some people seem to need something like drugs to make them feel ‘normal’ to themselves and to the people around them. When everyone else seems to easily roll with the ups and downs of life while they get stuck on the downs. When how they think and process input and information is not the same as others. When their ability to be at peace or sleep is chronically unobtainable.

I’m not at all suggesting that individuals who seek drugs all have legitimate genetic or biochemical voids. As we know, many young people start drug use because of peer pressure and the environment that surrounds them. But underlying mental struggles or health conditions may be the determining factor that pushes them into, rather than away from, repeated use. I found it interesting that among my son’s high school and college friends, many tried all the drugs – uppers, downers, hallucinogenic – and some went on to addiction to uppers like cocaine and meth while others to downers like opioids and benzos and some walked away from all of them.

But once repeated and continual use happens, the chemicals and receptors in the brain are changed and more than ever, medication and therapy are going to be a big part of recovery from use and restoration of normalized brain signals. The need for medication may be short term or lifelong. Regardless, we all need to remember that just like shaming someone because they have a physical deformity is totally unacceptable, shaming someone who is struggling with mental health and/or addiction problems is also unacceptable.

This does not mean we enable destructive behavior or stop supporting someone to get professional medical and psychological help along with a supportive community. Never. If we want to see someone who is struggling become as healthy as possible, our love and support are crucial. And we know that in a country where public health care is a privilege rather than part of a foundation of society, finding the right care can be daunting. Let us be there to help our family, friends, and community receive the care they need by being encouraging and supportive.

Stigma of Addiction: The Effects, The Reasons, and How to Reduce Stigma

by Chris Elkins, MA

https://www.drugrehab.com/addiction/stigma/

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Info Hazelden Betty Ford:

https://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/mental-health-services/cognitive-behavioral-therapy#:~:text=Learn%20more%20about%20this%20popular,techniques%20in%20working%20with%20patients.

Recovery Options for Teens

Statue by Gustav Vigeland, Vigeland Park in Oslo, Norway.

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Understanding the teenage brain was the topic of my last post: Is Teenage Turmoil Inevitable? It is important to digest before parents consider a recovery program for their teen. Knowing that adolescents and teens feel and process information differently than adults is why they require a different approach to addiction and recovery.

Regardless of the type of program considered, the one absolute necessity is that the family be involved in the process – because family dynamics are an integral part of a young persons’ sober and addicted life. And the best place to start this discussion is to focus on the CRAFT model.

The American Psychological Association has an informative article, below. (1) In it they point to studies discussing how programs like Al-Anon for family members with an addicted loved one “may improve the well-being of friends and family members, they are not effective in getting the addicted person into treatment.”

Intervention programs, designed to help “family and friends work with a counselor to confront a substance user and urge him or her to get treatment” is only used by 30 percent of families due to discomfort with confrontation. And treatment is only the first step on the long road to recovery. After that, the family still needs other tools.

CRAFT (Community Reinforcement Approach to Family Training) originated at the University of New Mexico and was developed by Robert Meyers, Ph.D. and colleagues. Research on CRAFT shows that approximately 70% of families who receive CRAFT are able to help their loved ones start treatment within a year (Miller, Meyers, & Tonigan, 1999). CRAFT also helps family members improve their own lives, whether their loved one ends up seeking treatment or not.

CRAFT teaches real life skills to use connection to encourage positive change, because CRAFT is rooted in the belief that connection is the opposite of addiction. It teaches positive communications skills to foster the connection that is desired by the person who is struggling with addiction and their loved ones.

Helping Families Help is a great non-profit website resource for CRAFT information. (2)

SMART Recovery was established in 1994, here in the USA, to meet the increasing demand of those seeking a secular and evidence-informed alternative to the widespread 12-Step addiction recovery program. It is intended for adults over 18 and those seeking flexibility and independence, while AA offers structure and strong community support. It may be best for young adults in their 20’s, as most 18- to 25-year-olds who struggle with addiction are not yet “adult” in their thinking and coping skills. Smart Recovery is now in 23 countries. See info below. (3)

Basically, the steps in helping your teen who is addicted are this:

Getting them into treatment
Choose a program – inpatient or outpatient
Detox
Individual Therapy
Family Therapy
Contingency Management

Getting your loved one into treatment: sign up for CRAFT 10-week email training course through Helping Families Help or investigate other options.
Choose a program: based on the drugs involved and length of time used.
Detox: Most drugs will still be in your child’s system. Detox flushes them out. Detoxing under the care of professionals ensures that it’s done safely out of reach from harmful substances. Your teen will likely experience withdrawal symptoms as well.
Individual Therapy: To understand a teen’s problem and to address it comprehensively. The first course of action in rehab is one or more types of therapy, both one-on-one and group settings. Motivational Interviewing uses a person-centered, non-confrontational style where the teen is encouraged to examine the pros and cons of their use and to create goals to help them achieve a healthier lifestyle. This helps them gradually realize the consequences of their actions. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is goal-oriented therapy that helps teens express and understand their feelings and cope with difficult emotions. They learn to replace negative behaviors (such as using substances) with positive ones (like sports or art or service endeavors).
Family Therapy: Based on the premise that family carries the most profound and long-lasting influence on development, and in modeling both good and bad behaviors and beliefs. These sessions bring together those closest to an addicted teen and address issues such as poor family communication, cohesiveness and problem solving. Again, CRAFT is crucial here.
Contingency Management: This form of therapy tracks each patient’s progress in rehab, including each day they succeed in staying sober, and rewards them with a prize. The more teens feel satisfied with their rewards, not only will they continue striving to stay sober, but their brain will relearn how to appreciate rewards that aren’t drugs or alcohol. Following rehab, a teenager is thrust back into the world. Temptations lie around every corner and their problem stays with them for years after treatment. After you’ve helped your child kick their habit you must help prepare them with a plan to prevent relapse – or for all of you to know what to do when relapse occurs, which is likely especially for certain drugs like opioids. MAT (Medication Assisted Treatment) is vital for opioid addiction and the long-lasting changes in the brain that will continue to undermine all the best plans and determination to stay clean and sober. Our son and many of the hundreds of thousands of young people who died from opioids are the sad evidence of this truth.

I do not offer these steps and advice as a medical or addiction professional. I can only offer my opinion based on our personal experience and the stories from others, along with the research I’ve done over the past 20 years since my husband and I first discovered that our 15 year old son was using heroin. What we wish we had known I share with you in the hope that your story will end differently than ours.

1. An underappreciated intervention

The CRAFT model is giving family and friends the skills they need to help get loved one’s treatment for substance use problems By Katherine Lee – December 2017, Vol 48, No. 11

https://www.apa.org/monitor/2017/12/underappreciated-intervention

2. Helping Families Help – CRAFT Information

https://helpingfamilieshelp.com/about-craft

https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2018/08/10/636556573/families-choose-empathy-over-tough-love-to-rescue-loved-ones-from-opioids

3. SMART Recovery

https://smartrecovery.org/what-is-smart-recovery

4. The Different Types of Adolescent Treatment Programs

New Horizons Recovery Centers (USA)

https://www.newhorizonscenters.com/blog/the-different-types-of-adolescent-addiction-treatment-programs

The Freedom of Habits

(Twenty-fifth in a series of topical blogs based on chapter by chapter excerpts from Opiate Nation. Translation into most languages is available to the right.)

I’ve heard a saying: “The chains of habit are too weak to be felt until they are too strong to be broken.” And just like chains, some habits are stronger and deadlier than others. Conversely, healthy habits can be just as strong and powerful – but instead of bondage, they bring freedom to live our lives to the fullest.

In The Power of Habit, Charles Duhigg says, “Habits are a three-step loop: The cue, the routine, the reward. They become automatic beginning with a cue that triggers a routine and a craving for a clear reward. Craving is an essential part of the formula for creating new habits…You can never truly extinguish bad habits. So in order to change a habit, you must keep the old cue and deliver the old reward (that you are craving), BUT insert a new routine.”

The Rescuers: Enabling, Caretaking, and Drama

(Twenty-fourth in a series of topical blogs based on chapter by chapter excerpts from Opiate Nation. Translation into most languages is available to the right.)

Historically, “enabling” referred to facilitating or empowering someone in order to help them accomplish something. By teaching children to read, we enable them to develop their intellect and further their learning. Or, as in 1933 Germany, “The Enabling Act” gave Adolf Hitler the power to enact laws without the involvement of the legislative bodies: he was enabled to become a legal dictator. In modern psychology, enabling can be positive, but it is also used in a negative sense when it encourages dysfunctional, unhealthy behavior and habits, as it is used in addiction and recovery vocabulary. Rescuing and caretaking are terms that mean what they say. They are closely connected to enabling: we rescue people from their responsibilities and we take care of people’s responsibilities for them.

Melody Beattie (Codependent No More) refers to the “Drama Triangle” roles of victim, persecutor, rescuer, and says “Rescuing/caretaking looks like a much friendlier act than it is. It requires a victim who is actually capable of taking care of themselves even though we and they don’t admit it…After we rescue, we will inevitably move to the next corner of the triangle, persecutor. We become resentful and angry at the person we have so generously helped…Then we move to the victim corner of the triangle, at the bottom, the predictable and unavoidable result of a rescue.”