ANNIVERSARIES: CELEBRATIONS & MEMORIALS

August 2, 2026

Anniversaries are remembered for a host of different reasons: they mark events that are special to us for one reason or another. Important milestones in our lives. They are milestones that we can look back upon and see from the vantage point of having traveled some distance, usually with at least one other person as in a wedding or new job or new child. Birthdays are a type of anniversary as we celebrate another year of living. 

They are times of reflecting on the past year or years and a shared journey in life –as two people or as a community or as a nation. The word comes from the Latin annus meaning ‘year’ and vertere meaning ‘turn’ – the turning of the year. And these anniversaries can be either a celebration or a memorial or sometimes both. 

Anniversaries are a time to connect with others, with loved ones or people who hold the event as important. We ponder our shared history and the things that make a day particularly significant to us together. Public holidays are anniversaries of victories or tragedies or rituals of common traditions and core values and beliefs. These times of remembering together are honoring what people did and they build and strengthen bonds of community and friendship and love.

August 2nd, is the 12th anniversary of our son, JL’s, death from a heroin overdose. As you can imagine, it is not an anniversary celebration but a memorial. Yet memorials hold many of the same characteristics as other anniversaries: reflection, a shared journey, and honoring a person.

For us, the anniversary of JL’s death is a time for us to reflect, once again, on our son as a child whom we loved and who died too soon. To remember how much his 25 years enriched our lives and the things we learned from him. To remember the things that made him a great friend to others like his loyalty and sense of humor and his love. And of course there are the sad memories of how the opioid epidemic of the 2000’s swept him and so many others into addictions that ruined their lives before they even had time to grow up and experience life as an adult.

Memorials can also cause us to look to the future with a new sense of purpose and direction as we adjust to life without our loved one. This particular ‘epidemic’ has caused many, many parents and loved ones to work tirelessly in various ways to try to prevent other families from going through the trauma of having a child addicted to something that ruins their lives. All the recent efforts from small ones to large national organizations are memorials that have grown out of the ashes of these lives.

August 31st is the 25th anniversary of International Overdose Awareness Day (IOAD). For the millions of families and friends who lost their loved ones, it is an anniversary of remembering – a memorial for – all the accidental deaths of those who lost their lives in the greed-fueled scourge called the opioid epidemic. 

Head to the new GIFT OF NEED YouTube channel and find podcasts with guests about addiction, drugs, trauma, grief. To hear our story, listen to Episodes #7 & #8.

https://www.youtube.com/@judedimegliotrang

Also, for information on IOAD and how you can help or find events:

International Overdose Awareness Day – August 31, 2023

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No one can recover from addiction if they have died from an overdose.

International Overdose Awareness Day (IOAD) is the world’s largest annual campaign to end overdose. It is a day to raise awareness about the risks of overdose, honor the individuals whose lives have been lost, and acknowledge the grief felt by families, friends, and the community

With synthetic drugs made from chemicals in China and added into illicit drugs around the world, the need has never been more urgent to alert us all to the risk of overdose facing millions of people worldwide. What can we do to help prevent further loss of lives for those already struggling with addiction?

Prof. Dan Lubman (Australia) shared a thought that stuck in my mind because it brought up memories of conversations I had with my son while he was addicted. Instead of asking, “Why are you taking drugs?” A more engaging question would be, “What put you in this vulnerable position?”

This question shows the understanding that addiction is not just a matter of choice or will-power but that it is a complex problem that will not be helped with simplistic answers such as “Just Say No.” When a person feels less stigma, that they are not being judged, and that there is hope for them, they are increasingly likely to consider treatment.

So, what does put people into the vulnerable position where drugs/alcohol are helping them cope with life? The 5 main factors that contribute to addiction are:
genetics, mental illness, home and social environment, stress, trauma/abuse.

We can’t do anything about our genes although if you know there is alcoholism/addiction in your family tree there is need for extra awareness and precautions. Mental illness once recognized and diagnosed properly, can be treated with therapy, education, and medication. Home and social environments, stress, and trauma and abuse are absolutely within parents, extended family, and society’s control. This is where raising our children as “a village” is so important, but it is in peril with our upwardly-mobile lifestyles of frequently moving house, not enough time together, and not engaging with our community. Educating our families and involvement in healthy and safe support networks such as service organizations and faith and school communities are a good place to start.

Once someone is using substances to self-medicate, what can we do? First, we need to look for, and reach out to, people struggling with addiction. There may be some in your circle of friends – even in affluent communities. If we truly understand that those individuals will shrivel in shame from stigma, we can start by changing how we speak about them and to them – we’ve changed our language for things a lot less deadly. Building trust over time is critical to someone feeling they can openly discuss their problems. We can find out more about what is being done in our community to support recovery efforts and get involved with clean needle exchanges, Narcan training and distribution, opioid substitution therapy, food distribution, safe injection and health facilities, etc.

In a report from Norway discussing housing for people who are addicted, Jon Storaas, manager of RIO, an organization in Norway working to help substance abusers, said, “We need to provide residences to ensure that addicts can live with neighbors who don’t share their drug problems…meet with them, talk about their problems…this kind of experience and openness can strip people of their ordinary prejudices. You need to create these encounters so people can see that drug addicts are human, too. Extreme examples of ordinary people, you might say. But ordinary nevertheless.” (1)

In 2018 Time reported that in the 1990’s, Portugal was in the grip of heroin addiction. An estimated 1% of the population—bankers, students, socialites—were hooked on heroin and Portugal had the highest rate of HIV infection in the entire EU. But in 2001, Portugal took a radical step. It became the first country in the world to decriminalize the consumption of all drugs… while drug dealers still go to prison.

The results? The drug-induced death rate has plummeted to five times lower than the EU average and stands at one-fiftieth of the United States’. Its rate of HIV infection has dropped dramatically. Drug use has declined overall among 15-24 yr-olds, those most at risk of initiating drug use. And, by eliminating the threat of criminal penalties—and along with it, a great deal of stigma—it has become easier for people to seek treatment.

“What America and other countries can learn from Portugal is to treat people with more dignity.” Portugal has showed that, without spending significant sums, governments can give drug users the tools to put their lives back on track. But to do so, it will have to stop treating them like criminals. (2)

Ultimately, what IOAD is about, what this blog is about, is Awareness: Becoming aware of a problem is the first step towards solving that problem. For this August 31st, I want to remember all those who have died from drug or alcohol overdose, my son included. Remember that they were precious individuals who were loved by their parents, family, friends and God. And although we live in a world where death is something that happens to every person who is born, premature and preventable death is a tragedy that each and every one of us should work diligently to prevent. Let’s find our arena and fight for the lives of those we love.

No one can recover from addiction if they have died from an overdose.

(1)

Addicts Want Sober Neighbours by Georg Mathisen
Saturday 11. January 2014, Norway
https://sciencenorway.no/addiction-drug-rehab-drug-use/addicts-want-sober-neighbours/1395274

(2)

WANT TO WIN THE WAR ON DRUGS? PORTUGAL MIGHT HAVE THE ANSWER By Naina Bajekal | Photos by Gonçalo Fonseca – August 1, 2018
https://time.com/longform/portugal-drug-use-decriminalization/

Remembering The Least of Us on Int’l Overdose Awareness Day August 31st, 2022

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I wish everyone could read the penultimate chapter of The Least of Us by Sam Quinones. Its title is the same as that of the book. I have almost every line underlined and starred. In it, he describes the dire state we in Western society are in with addiction, the well-thought out reasons many of our public policies are still getting it wrong, and the slivers of hope that encourage us that the world could look differently for the next generation of young people. Some poignant quotes:

“Underground chemists seem to be searching the chemistry literature for drugs that might be molecularly modified to be more potent…The world Gary Henderson predicted when he coined the term ‘designer drugs’ in 1988 is now with us. Counterfeit pills laced with fentanyl (and new synthetics every day) and made in Mexico now dominate the market…There seems now no way to stop all the bizarre drugs devised by those whose own brain chemistry has been twisted by the profits of the underworld’s free market…recovering addicts face scary odds as long as the drugs that torment them are widely available, potent, and almost free. The now-cliché is ‘We can’t arrest our way out of this.’ We can’t treat our way out of it either, as long as supply is so potent and cheap.”

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2021 International Overdose Awareness Day August 31

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The need has never been more urgent to alert us all to the risk of overdose facing millions of people worldwide. During the 18 months of the Covid-19 pandemic, overdose deaths have risen approximately 30% in many parts of the world due to isolation, unstable drug sources, and lack of reliable medical and recovery help. Even the normal inadequate support services have been seriously disrupted and diverted. And the hope of C19 disappearing sometime soon is now seen as wishful thinking – it is a new deadly virus we will have to learn how to live with.

So, what can we do to help prevent further loss of lives for those already struggling with addiction?

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